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Friday 4 September 2015

Self-Respect Relay


Self-respect is one of the most positive attributes any person can own. However, through my own personal experience self-respect is something that can be knocked down and shattered into a million pieces in one instance by the most minuscule of occurrences. Self-respect is defined as, 'a proper sense of one's own dignity and integrity,' although I believe that self-respect manifests itself not only through an internal measure but also an external.

For example, it is the norm for people to aspire to act like others, to look like other people or to adopt similar lifestyle or traits of another individual, this is an external act of lowering our self-respect. An extreme example of this act is the lip challenge, in which many young adults indulged in to get voluminous lips like Kylie Jenner. This painful trend exploited youngsters to sucking on a glass to increase the swelling of their lips to gain a puffy pout, similar to that of Kylie Jenner's, 'completely real' perfect mouth. By aspiring to be like Kylie, individuals believed it was acceptable to go through this much preparation and pain that the swelling lasted for days, no one should need to go through that much agony to look like anyone. It is apparent that young adults do not feel good enough in their own skin, and this is not only a female trend.

 The Only Way is Essex has become a major trend recently, especially in relation to young males. The quiff exploited by Joey Essex has became increasingly popular this year with young men who want to incorporate the quiff and the lad like identity. Its evident that it is not just young ladies who are not comfortable in their own skin and aspire to look like someone else.

However, it is clear to see that those who we aspire to act or look similar to have common attributes, they are either famous at this point in time, have a lot of money or are aesthetically pleasing. These common attributes do not lead the path to happiness, this is a common misconception. By following these celebrities, as individuals we are diminishing our own self-respect and happiness by aspiring to be like someone, which is an impossible task. We are our own person and we should celebrate ourselves as unique individuals not as robots trying to incorporate someone else's trends.

Wednesday 2 September 2015

The Toxic Comparison

"Happiness is letting go of what you think your life is supposed to look like and celebrating it for everything that it is." 
- MANDY HALE

Recently this quote has become some what of a blessing to my clouded mind. I am just about to start my last year at university, therefore, I am yet another dreary step closer to becoming what society would represent as a 'mature adult.' Although for those who know me will agree this is untrue.

I have noticed a lot of my friends/acquaintances on social media such as Facebook/Instagram/Twitter posting regular exciting and positive updates about their lives. From people I have known since nursery, high-school, university and work people are moving house, being promoted to their dream job, meeting the love of their lives and even giving birth, and basically these posts put me under tremendous pressure that my life is not going how it should be.

It is difficult enough when you are unsure of which direction that your own life is heading, never mind when everyone else seems to own a one way ticket to the perfect life plastered all over my timeline.  However, I have learned that although these exciting and positive outcomes of my friends lives are all very well, it would not suit for everyone to be the same. I have came to understand that worrying will not solve anything or show me the path to my own happiness and to compare your own life to that lived by others is probably the most toxic way of thinking that an individual can indulge in. By comparing our lives to others it is essentially undermining your own and creating a negative energy that 'you're not good enough because you're not the same.' 

We must accept ourselves to become truly content and happy, it would not do to be the same as everyone else. Life has a journey for each and everyone of us and it doesn't all come together at the same time.
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